Are you “Doing” but not “Being” You?

Finding a healthy balance between us “doing “ and “being” can be quite challenging to say the least. Is your mind constantly thinking about what still needs doing: the washing, the shopping, taking your children to extra curricula activities, cooking dinner, cleaning the house or work related issues? The list is endless. A list that continually gets recycled with little to no respite unless we put it in its place.

Just “being” seems to be more challenging today than it was in the past. With the advent of mobile phones, the internet and the popularity of social media, there is always something for us to be doing. I am not saying that technology is a bad thing but what I am saying is that many of us are so caught up with it and staying connected and keeping on top of everything that somewhere along the way, it’s easy to lose ourselves.

At times, we can feel guilty for stopping and taking time do just “BE” – to enjoy some peaceful time, gain a greater understanding of ourselves and the deepest desires and dreams our souls yearn for us to experience.

My soul feels alive when I write. It has taken me a while to get on the road to living my purpose upon this planet as a children’s writer but WOW, I must say I am very happy and relieved to finally be on the right road. Before I got to this point, I was just going through the motions. I worked as an accountant for several different financial institutions but never felt alive doing what I was doing. Sure it paid for my rent, food and whatever else I wanted to do but I was not “being” the person I was born to be. Subsequently, I was feeling the dissatisfaction on many levels. When I went on maternity leave in April of 2003, the only thing I knew was that I would never work as an accountant ever again. Being a mother changed everything for me. The corporate ladder which I used to think was important became meaningless. My priorities completely changed and I never returned to work. Eventually, I decided to resign as a member of professional accounting body which meant I would no longer be a CPA (Certified Practising Accountant). It was important that I let it go because when I did, I stopped considering myself as an accountant and when people started asking me what my occupation was, I started saying I was a writer. It felt great! And I was happy I was moving in the direction my soul yearned for me to go.

How did I get to this point? Through a lot of soul searching. Letting go of the need to know and control what I would be doing as far as my career was concerned. It was liberating for me to not be working in a corporate “doer” environment. As a mother, there is a LOT to Do but for me, it is an invaluable time of gaining a greater sense of self. My “being” started shining. Then one morning towards the end of 2006, having been out of the work-force for three years, I received clear insight I was to write. So that’s when I started writing. With two young children at the time, I wrote when I could and now that they are getting older, I am currently writing my first young adult novel. My occupation now is that of a children’s writer and strong advocate for children being able to read and receive a good education.

It is through disconnecting ourselves from the busyness of life that we really get in tune with ourselves and what will make us the happiest. Yes, it’s about getting away from it all and if you can’t get away from it all, meditation is the next best thing. If you can, have a break and get clear about yourself and what you want for your life. You have to listen to yourself at the end of the day. You know yourself better than anybody else and it’s about trusting yourself rather putting your faith in other people’s opinions or beliefs in what you should be doing with your life.

First and foremost we are “beings” and when we start “doing” to grow our “being” the “doing” takes on a whole new meaning for us.

I would love to hear any comments you may have.

Wishing you well,





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